Common Long Distance Relationship Problems That You Need To Avoid


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Long-distance relationships can be quite challenging, but it doesn’t mean that it is impossible. If both of you willing to put in extra effort and hard work, a long-distance relationship can totally work. So in this article, we’re gonna talk about what are common long-distance relationship problems that you need to avoid?

Most of us will experience a long-distance relationship at a certain stage in our lives. It either we have a long-distance relationship from the start or our partner need to travel because of pursuing higher studies or career growth.

From my own experiences, I could say that a long-distance relationship is indeed tricky and have their own unique set of complications. If you are not prepared, even a small mistake can ruin your relationship.

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Common Problems With Long Distance Relationships

The main problem for long-distance relationships is the distance itself. The distance itself can make a small problem becoming a bigger problem. Why? Because the way you communicate with each other is not gonna be the same as normal couples.

Most of the time, you will communicate through text messages or phone calls. So there could be a lot of misunderstandings that can happen along the way. Text communication can be easily misrepresented because you can’t rely on body language or facial expression to explain certain issues.

It is true that the internet and video calls do help a lot making a long-distance relationship easier to manage. But it still lacking in terms of direct human-to-human connection such as hugging, touching, or kissing.

A relationship that missing all those connections will definitely become more fragile than normal relationships. That is why it is important for you to be more prepared for the problems that might arise when you are living apart.

1# Trust issues

Every relationship starts with love, but love alone cannot survive without trust. According to the experts, you need to put effort to build trust in your partner, especially if you are in a long-distance relationship. No healthy relationship can exist without trust.

Trust will hold your relationship together and make you both grow stronger. Trust will allow you to feel safe enough even though you are far apart from each other.

Be transparent and address any issues that arise together with your partner. If you had any doubt about their activity, their friends, or anything that caught your attention, talk to your partner. It is important for you to tell your partner these worries so that both of you can work on them together.

Read Next: How To Not Lose Yourself When Dating

Never ever let your past experience haunt your new relationship. No matter what happens in your last relationship, you should be aware that you actually dating a different person. Do not treat or assume that he will be like your previous partner.

This is clearly unfair and you should stop hurting each other this way. Give your new partner and yourself a chance to prove that not everyone is gonna be the same. Who knows, maybe he is the one for you. Be open and enjoy your new relationship.

2# Too much talking

This problem is pretty common for couples who have just begin their long-distance relationship. As a new couple, you might be spending hours and hours every single day talking to your partner. It is either through text messages, phone calls, or video calls.

It is true that communication is essential for a long-distance relationship. But having too much conversation with your partner will only hurt your relationship in the long run. If you are doing so, you should stop doing this before it becomes your habit.

As the relationship matures, this habit will be one of the annoying long-distance relationship problems. If you aim for a lasting relationship, it would be best if you can keep things balanced.

Yes, you can communicate with them every day to establish a consistent time to talk or to catch up with your partner. It doesn’t need hours and hours of chattering, just a short and meaningful conversation should be enough.

And if you want to make things more special, try to plan out your next video call. Instead of having the normal video call, maybe both of you can wear a nice dress to impress each other. Or you can cook together while on call.

3# Jealousy

As a human beings, all of us can sometimes feel jealous. A bit of jealousy may even give your partner a new appreciation. But uncontrollable jealousy can be lead to a destructive combination of distrust, possession, fear, rage, and shame.

In a relationship, inconsistencies and misunderstandings also can lead to jealousy. They occur even more often as you go through with your everyday life. It could be because of the cute secretary that your boyfriend works with or the nerdy classmate of your girlfriend.

Jealousy is an instinct that may arise in any relationship due to a lack of trust and a feeling of insecurity. If you keep feeding your jealousy then there is a very high chance that it will consume your thinking and make you do irrational things.

To avoid this problem to go out of control, you should avoid feeding your jealousy. Get back to point number 1, if your partner has never given you any reason to think that they are unfaithful, then trust them.

4# Avoid pointless argument

Please avoid unnecessary arguments as best as you can. Because if you don’t, this problem might kill your relationship. The rule of thumb to avoid unnecessary arguments are never ever argue and get into a complicated conversation with text messages.

As we have discussed before, things can be easily miscommunicated when texting. So, there is a huge chance that your problem will lead to another problem. Then both of you will start having a pointless argument.

If you are not solving the real issues, this pointless fight will keep on happening. Every day is something new, a small little problem getting bigger. As an example, there will be an issue where you think that your partner is not paying enough attention. Or their tone was off in a text message. Or they did not call you back within 15 minutes and more.

When you start fighting every single day, you will start feeling tired. And when it is tiring, you will start to question whether the relationship is worth it or not. Once you start thinking that way, it is almost the sign of a bad relationship.

5# A sense of appreciation

Appreciate your partner, the big, the small, the silly, and the imperfect of them. This practice teaches you to be grateful for everything you have, it creates space to feel enough for the little things that happen in your life.

One of the major emotional needs for every human is the want of appreciation for all their effort, no matter how big or small it is. And this ‘appreciation’ becomes more crucial for long-distance relationship couples.

Read Next: What To Do If You Are Feeling Unappreciated In Your Marriage

I still remember one of the stories that I read online about this one long-distance couple. There is one girl who shared her story. She said that one day her boyfriend come to surprise her. She was so happy but then she said something like this to her boyfriend.

“I thought you’re at least bought me a bouquet of flowers.”

Her boyfriend’s face suddenly changes, he was kind of shock and feels sad. Then he said something like this.

“I think you are the one who should buy me a flower.”

That girl not really get it and ask him why she should buy him a flower.

Then her boyfriend said, “I across thousands of miles to be here just to see you. Did I not deserve some flower?”

From the story, that girl learns that her boyfriend does not really ask for something in return. He just wants her to appreciate his effort. That’s all.

Couples who are physically living away from each other need tons of appreciation from each other. Ongoing appreciation is essential for you to satisfy the emotional needs that you both have. Appreciating someone makes them feel goods and indirectly strengthening your relationship.

If you are interested to learn more about appreciation in your man, I suggest you check out our article: Man’s Hero Instinct. In that article, we talk about men’s deepest desire for meaning and purpose. You will also learn why men crave appreciation from his girl.

How to survive the distance?

Being in a long-distance relationship is not easy because not many people can cope with the challenge, the stress, or the distance. That is why things like trust, communication, appreciation, compromise, and understanding are very crucial in a long-distance relationship.

Trust me, if you can give your best to understand how this kind of relationship work, this long-distance relationship can be one of the best relationships you have ever had. Remember,  when two people truly love each other, distance is just a small issue. This is because you know that what you have is far greater than the distance between you.

Read Next: Why Do Men Pull Away After Getting Close?

Relationship life can be a lot better when couples have a strong understanding of each other. If you are in a true love relationship, you should understand this. That is all from me, I wish you all the best in your long-distance relationship.

What Makes You a Real Man to Her?


What Makes You a Real Man to Her (Features All Women Love)

What makes you a real man to her? Well, there’s only so much you can do with what God gave you, but there are some features all women love that any man can develop.

And the best part is… the features all women love aren’t physical attributes!

Sure, most women appreciate a man who’s fit and healthy or even nice looking, but if you want to win her heart—and other bits, wink wink—for the duration, you must to appeal to her innate need for what makes a real man.

What Makes a Real Man

You’ll not be surprised by the first of the features all women love because you hear it over and over again.

Confidence

This is not to be confused with aggression or arrogance, which are both turnoffs!

True confidence comes with knowing your self-worth as a person but, more specifically confidence as one of the features all women love, is your confidence as a man.

Your certainty in the world with women!

You don’t need to brag or try to impress women and that humbleness translates into confidence.

You’ll see how this plays out as we go through the other qualities of what makes you a real man to her.

Leadership

You don’t need to be bossy or take over when it’s not your place but you have no problem stepping up and leading.

Women love a man who leads with confidence—ooh la la!

And what makes you a man to her in the area of leadership is when you lead the relationship.

Generally, this comes from being confident in where you stand in the relationship and assuming you’re the best choice for her.

It also comes in trusting yourself to make decisions and then following through on those decisions.

Which brings us to…

Bravery

Bravery comes from courage.

Courage isn’t the absence of fear, but the presence of fear and the strength to move through it.

Women love heroes!

You can be her hero by making those tough decisions and doing things she thinks are scary.

Whether you’re quitting a lousy job to pursue your career passion or speaking up to your boss about getting that raise you deserve, what makes you a real man to her is your ability to face your fears.

Sure, if it’s something big that could affect both of you—like moving across the country—you may need her support and encouragement, but she’s got to see you making theses choices mostly on your own or she’ll feel like your mommy.

Mommy mode = non arousal mode.

Courage is sexy, but for it to be one of the features all women love, it has to come with self-motivation.

Along the lines of bravery is…

Say “No” (to Her!)

A man who can say “no” to a woman is a man who values himself. Self-respect is sexy AF.

In fact, self-respect is a mandatory pre-requisite to sexual attraction.

A woman can’t be aroused by a man she doesn’t respect. Full stop.

Which means you’re going to need some of this next trait for what makes a real man to her.

Resolve

Resolve is when you’ve decided something and nothing and no one can get you off track of following through on it.

Worded in another way, it’s the internal strength that allows you to make that tough decision and take actionable steps to accomplish its end.

Like finding another job in that new city before you’ve left your current city and booking the moving truck.

Without encouragement. And without prodding. No hesitation.

It’s you saying, “I got this.” and meaning it for yourself.

Okay, now what about what women don’t love?

It should be no surprise based on the aforementioned features all women love that no women love…Mr. Too Nice Guy!

More details on this in the video.

And, be sure you’re subscribed so you get next week’s follow up with 5 more features all women love and how to be a real man to her!

xo AJ

Understand Women!: http://bit.ly/UnderstandWomenPlaylist
Be Alpha & Vulnerable: https://youtu.be/t9K2gSuPKmc
No More Mr Nice Guy book: http://bit.ly/MrNiceGuyBook
Why “Nice Guys” Finish Last: http://bit.ly/NiceGuyPlaylist

p.s. Step-by-step road map to becoming the real man your dream woman wants without compromising yourself is here.

Bipolar vs BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)


Bipolar vs BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

What’s the difference between bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder (BPD)?

Are all women with bipolar or BPD narcissists?

Most importantly — is she worth it?

Before we get into the differences between bipolar vs BPD, please keep in mind I’m not a psychologist or therapist, so I topped up my knowledge with research.

Shout out to Dr. Tracey Marks, Dr. Ramany Durvasula and Dr. Todd Grande, trained experts in bipolar vs BPD and narcissistic personality disorder.

Let’s explore…

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the Bible of psychological disorders et al.) describes the differences between bipolar and borderline personality disorder as follows—

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

BPD showed up as a pattern of unstable relationships, self-image and emotional expression marked by impulsivity, starting in early adulthood as exhibited in five or more of the following:

Frantic Efforts to avoid real or perceived abandonment.

Example: You postpone plans because something important has come up but she thinks you’re avoiding her and don’t want to be with her anymore. You’ve given no reason for her to feel this way at any time.

Pattern of unstable and intense relationships (romantic or not) alternating between idealization and devaluation extremes.

Example: One day she gushes about how amazing you are and how she wants to spend the rest of her life with you and the next day you do the slightest “wrong” thing and she calls you a “stupid loser” and questions being with you at all.

Identity disturbance marked by persistently unstable sense of self or self-image.

Example: She acts like a spoiled princess expecting you to spend all your money on her and acts like you’re lucky to be with her and the next day her hair doesn’t go right or she gains a pounds and is overly dramatic about being fundamentally worthless worried you’ll leave her because she’s fat. She’s not fat. You did nothing to make her feel fat.

Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging.

Example: She goes on a big spending spree even though she’s lost her job and has no savings; gets drunk or does drugs and drives when she’s three sheets to the wind; overeats until she’s sick; or sleeps around recklessly not caring if you find out. Maybe all of these! #blazingredflags

Recurrent “ultimate self harm” — suicidal behaviour, gestures, threats or self-mutilating behaviours

Example: She cuts herself on purpose or threatens suicide.

Unstable reactive moods that rollercoaster or Bungy jump all over the place, depending on if bipolar or BPD.

BPD Example: She goes into a rage with you for little things like being five minutes late even if you texted her to let her know and the last time this happened she simply acted happy when you got there.

Bipolar Example: Same as above but she goes from rage when she sees you to loving and affectionate five minutes later when you meet up with your friends like nothing happened.

I’m throwing in the bipolar example now because—surprise!—most of these traits overlap!

The big difference in bipolar vs BPD is in how long the mood lasts.

More on this shortly, for now let’s continue with the list…

Chronic feelings of emptiness.

Example: She starts a fight over nothing but the intensity of the fight makes her feel something so her anger escalates. She may feel justified in the moment.

Which brings us to…

Inappropriate or intense anger or difficulty controlling anger.

Example: She doesn’t only interrupt, raise her voice if you interrupt or walk away and slam a door; she may yell, scream, throw things or physically escalate.

Transient, stress-related, paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms aka micro-psychotic episodes.

Example: Even though you’ve given her no reason to wonder because you’re as loyal as the year 2020 is long, she constantly questions you and cross-examines your every statement like a lawyer because she’s sure you’re cheating. You are not cheating.

Conversely:

Example: You got 100% caught cheating on her, but even though normally she would fly off the handle, outwardly she doesn’t react at all instead behaving as though nothing happened.

Remember, in order for a clinical diagnosis of bipolar or borderline personality disorder, the person must have at least five of the above.

The big difference with bipolar is these groups of behaviours may express and change within hours or less whereas with borderline personality disorder they can last a minimum of two weeks if in a depressive state or a minimum of one week if in a manic state.

So it’s whether the behaviours are episodic (bipolar) with quick mood swings, or pervasive (BPD) with slower mood changes.

Both may struggle with abandonment issues and can be manipulative; and both can be narcissists but aren’t necessarily so. More on this in a moment.

Think of it like comparing a scary bungy jump adventure (bipolar) vs riding a scary rollercoaster (BPD).

This is why these type of people can be so appealing!

Women with bipolar or BPD are a thrill to be with—spontaneous, exciting, never boring—but there are healthier ways for you to get your kicks.

Treatment

Good news and less good news, my friend: both bipolar and BPD can respond positively to treatment but there’s a “but.”

Bipolar disorder is primarily treated with medication and sometimes therapy whereas BPD is primarily treated with a special form of therapy and sometimes medication.

Here’s the “but.”

If she’s also a narcissist, that disorder (so far) has no cure. Behaviours may be modified but the core of her doesn’t change. #highrisk

Some of you may want to go back and score yourself on these!

Questions to Ask Yourself

Can she be helped?

Will she get help?

How can you support her in getting help?

But the most important question is…

Why are you with her?

Not all women are damaged goods.

Read that again.

Not all women are damaged goods.

So, if you keep attracting (and being attracted to) emotionally damaged women—whether with bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder (or any combo therein)—why is that?

If this is you, get WakeUP2Luv and do. the. work.

You can get an amazing woman.

xo Anna

Watch

Red flags: https://youtu.be/mMrbcomCdk4 

Damaged / Narcissistic Women: https://bit.ly/DamagedWomenplaylist 

Self-sabotage: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQ8Q-8-X18dkmwwVhGpFygsimaRcTIbPi 

WakeUP2Luv: https://members.wingmam.com/get-women/ 

Donations & Anna’s Memoir🙏: https://wingmam.com/donate-memoir/

50 First Dates—First Date #6 (Almost) How to Break Up


How to Break Up with Someone You Just Met

How to break up with someone depends on how long you’ve been dating.

Basically, the less time spent together, the less format the break up need be.

But!

If in doubt, always err on the side of classy. If you’re not sure how to break up, level up one notch in  effort.

Dating Site: n/a; met in “the real world” but I’m counting this as date #6!
Stats: Never married, no kids, one dog
Career: Entrepreneur, medical field

Several years ago when I’d just moved to Vancouver, BC, I started a 50 First Dates Project.

I’m revisiting those first dates to update any tips that might help you in your dating life.

(If this is your first 50 First Dates post and want to start at the beginning, click here.)

50 First Dates Date #6

I had met Red—a fellow fire-top—at a social event I’d attended with friends.

He was sitting at a table next to us with a bunch of his friends.

I’d noticed he had meaty, manly hands—a weakness, so shoot me—and because I’m a shameless flirt (when my skin isn’t in the game, at least), I started a conversation.

“Hey, you―” he looked over at me, unsure, and I continued, “Yes, you. You’re handsome. I like your hands.”

My two girlfriends laughed at my brazenness. (Tipsiness?)

The 20Something beauty sitting next to Red gave me the stink-eye, but because I’d already downed one Cosmo (martini) and it’s rare to see a specimen (man) I find attractive, I couldn’t help myself.

Side note: What I find physically attractive in a man isn’t necessarily what society would expect. And noooo, I’m not available and nooo I’m not encouraging you to ask me out. (Please don’t.) I’m sharing this personal info as evidence you, Sir, don’t have to be movie star looks to get a good woman.

Back to the story…

Red blushed at my compliment. He didn’t seem to know what to do but glanced over a few more times.

“So, are you single?” I asked. “Or are you here with anyone? Come join us.”

He was there with a table of people. I waved him over, anyway. He joined us.

20Something’s mouth dropped open as her head tipped to the side in disbelief.

Honestly, people, I was not displaying classy behaviour here by stealing another woman’s potential date, but really, 20Something could have benefited if she’d paid attention.

And Red did have the option not to join us.

What do we know? As Mat Boggs, dating coach for women, coined: Men don’t speak hint.

If a woman is interested in a man, he ain’t going to mind her speaking up about how sexy he is. Am I right, fellas?

Anyway, I spent most of the night conversing with Red (Note to self: bad friend to my crew) and discovered we had a mutual acquaintance―his friend, Randy, “The Player.”

Either because he was shy or nervous or insecure, Red spent a lot of time telling me things likely meant to impress me, but my girl friends thought he was a braggart who was vain and shallow.

Note to gents: Bragging comes across as vain, shallow and insecure. Be way more subtle than you think you need to, she is paying attention, I assure you. Also, you’re already worthy.

Note to ladies (in case there are any here): Sometimes a man wants to impress you to show you they’re worthy of you. Take it as a compliment he thinks you’re all that.

I gave Red my business card and a few days later we started texting.

A few days later we had a date set up.

And a few days later I cancelled the date.

uh, not my feet

As much as the man was attractive (to me), smart and financially savvy (financial irresponsibility makes all women feel unsafe), I did’t think we were a right fit.

I:

  • detest the feel of sand on my feet, he loves the beach.
  • don’t like boating, he lives for the ocean.
  • loathe beach resorts, yep, that was his fave.
  • am not a pet person (I now love certain small dogs, individuals not breeds, and am a cat person but allergic), he had a dog.

The list went on.

I did’t want to lead him on with false hope or take advantage with the “proper dinner date” I’d originally insisted on.

I asked if he’d like to go on a hike instead, “as friends.”

He said he would. Maturity: check.

Who knows where things can go, but the friend zone is not a bad consolation prize.

When & How to Break Up with Someone

  1. As soon as you know for sure you’re not into the person, let them know.
  2. If you haven’t been on a date yet, or only one date, it’s okay to “break up” by text.
  3. But, if you’ve been on two or more dates, the classy thing to do is a phone call. Yes, with verbal words! (Emphasis for the youngins.)
  4. If you’ve bumped nasties, you need to break up in person, unless you live in different cities. It’s awkward, but come on, you knew you weren’t really into her before you got in to her, dude.
  5. If you kinda like each other but not romantically, remember if you take the classy route, she might recommend you to her sexy, single friends. Unlike your friend, Randy.

Last Note, Gents

Don’t get your knickers in a knot if she isn’t into you, whether it’s (almost) the first date or if it’s the fifth.

Hello!

That’s what dating is about—discovering whether or not we’re into the person.

A first date just means you passed the physical inspection. Remember, women need a lot more than being ok with your looks to consider you for any kind of relationship, short or long.

You’d do all a favour (most notably yourself) by not assuming she wants you or expecting her to want you simply because you’re on a date or you like them.

xo Anna

Remember, you have one shot to make a first impression, so make it a good one!

To make the best first impression on a first date, watch these:

Cyber-Dating Expert


Dating Sunday

 

The year 2020 will go down as one of the most challenging and gut-wrenchingly painful years in history with COVID-19 at heightened levels on New Year’s Eve, but it turned out to be one of the most active years for singles looking for love online.

The New York Times reports singles who are quarantining are proposing, and engagement ring sales are up, and OkCupid predicts more than 15 million new conversations around Dating Sunday this year, with 25 million new matches expected in January alone. 

Virtual dating took center stage as we zoomed and FaceTimed our way to navigate love.

Today, on Dating Sunday, 2021, the activity level for singles on dating apps is expected to hit record numbers, and you won’t want to miss this worldwide digital party.

What is Dating Sunday?

Every year, the first Sunday after the New Year is the day where singles who decided to put finding love at the top of their resolutions list, log on looking for love. For those who rang in the New Year solo, had a recent breakup, or have Valentine’s Day on their minds, Dating Sunday is the day where your digital dreams can come true. 

Due to the pandemic, I’ve found the perspective on finding a meaningful relationship is magnified.  Many of us are still stuck at home with travel and fine dining on the back burner, so today’s the day to revise your dating profile, add a few photos of your socially-distanced walks, post one with your favorite mask, and get ready to start chatting.

Our ongoing poll on DatingintheAgeofCovid19.com shows that 82% of singles want a long-term relationship more than ever. 

Dating in the Age of COVID-19

Tonight, you might even want to dress up from the waist up, with the likelihood of your conversation moving to an impromptu video date. (Hint: Keep lipstick handy). 

The most active time to be online is approximately 9pm, local time. 

With this in mind, here’s how to master Dating Sunday.

  • Update Your Profile  – Last year’s story shouldn’t follow you into 2021. By showing that you’re active now, it sends the message that you’re taking finding love seriously. If you’re listing vacations or group events, it’s time to update your profile to show you’re dating responsibly and have high hopes for the New Year.

 

  • Reach Out and Connect – Don’t play the waiting game. Initiate contact first, respond quickly, and even reconnect with someone where the conversation faded in 2020. It’s still a good time to wish someone you previously chatted with a “Happy New Year,” because we could all use some joy and happiness right now.

 

  • Use Spell-Check and Grammar Check Sloppy messages that say, “Hey,” won’t cut it. You’re home, and you have time to craft the perfect five-sentence message. Remember to ask a question so that you can create a dialog and develop a flirty rapport.

 

  • Create a Fun Virtual Background – Dating should be fun, and both you, and your surroundings need to look your best. Find a virtual background that matches your personality, and if you prefer a virtual date on the fly, make sure your surroundings are free of clutter. Bumble reports in-app video calls increased by 70% since March, so you can easily chat within their platform.

 

  • Know Your Intentions – A new year is the time to take inventory on the type of relationship you truly desire.  If someone’s profile states they’re looking for something casual, swipe left if your goal is to find a serious relationship or marriage.  It’s time to toss the crumbs in the trash, because wasting your time with someone who doesn’t have the same relationship goals will prevent you from having the amazing love you deserve. 

Put a smile on your face, and think about some of the positive activities you experienced in 2020 to share with someone new. From binge-watching Schitt’s Creek to taking a painting class or bike riding, it’s time to push the restart button with the help of your mobile phone. 

The Match Group saw a 40% increase in usage on Dating Sunday last year and Coffee Meets Bagel saw a 60% spike in new sign ups on Dating Sunday in 2020. Tonight is show time. It’s the “Super Bowl” of dating, leading up to Valentine’s Day.

If you need some hand-holding, find out how our Irresistible Profiles and VIP Digital Matchmaker programs can help you find love online in the new year. 

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. 

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She’s been coaching singles on finding love online for over 25 years. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and Instagram. Sign up for the FREE Digital Flirt Newsletter. 

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High Maintenance vs High Standard (New video added!)


High Maintenance vs High Standard Women (10 Examples!)

Before we get into high maintenance vs high standard, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.

Questions for You

  • Does the kind of ideal woman you want really exist?
  • Are you offering what she would want?
  • Should you lower your own standards or up your game?

If you’re not sure what she wants or if you want to improve your sexual and relationship market value to where it needs to be for her, you need to do my WakeUP2Luv program.

WakeUP2Luv will help you determine what kind of gal is really right for you—what you think you want and what you really want aren’t usually the same.

And it’ll help you determine which things you want to change about yourself to get that kind of woman—and which things you won’t change.

Hint: Even if you decide to stay single forever, WakeUP2Luv will give you a great sense of satisfaction in life and respect of yourself as well as from others!

Okay, now let’s look at high maintenance vs high standards when it comes to women.

The Difference Between High Maintenance vs High Standards vs High Value

High maintenance comes from a shallow place of insecurity, selfishness and entitlement.

High standards comes from a place of high self esteem based on morals, values and an ability to satisfy our needs by our own means.

In both cases, whether high maintenance or high standards, the woman may require more effort than someone who is low maintenance.

The key is whether or not she’s worth it!

Then we’ve got high value vs low maintenance. The former is ideal; the latter can be a red flag!

A woman’s intentions, attitude and actions help you determine if she’s high maintenance vs high standards in her needs.

How to Tell the Difference Between High Maintenance and High Standard Women

Texting / Calling

High maintenance women need you to text or call all the time. Insecure, controlling.

High standard woman will ask you to reply within a reasonable time. Respect expected.

And high value and low maintenance woman makes no demands and simply accepts you’ll contact her when you want to but replies in a reasonable time reciprocates standards.

Keeping Track of You

High maintenance women demand to know where you are and who you’re with at all times. Controlling, insecure.

A high standards woman requests to know where you are and who you’re with IF you’ll be out later than is usual in your relationship.

And a high value and low maintenance woman says, “Have a great time tonight!” And leaves a snack and love note on the counter for you when you get home if you live together.

Key point: You’ve earned this kind of trust by—wait for it—offering details of where, when and who you’ll be with in advance without having been asked.

Or… you’ve come home early in the past or gone to your own home early in the past and sent a text saying you’re beat, home safe and had a great time but missed her!

Key point on the key point: You don’t stop going out because you miss her!

Autonomy is sexy! And perceived potential competition keeps her wanting you!

Food Preferences

High maintenance women will order a meal with specific and inconvenient alterations simply because she can.

Often she’ll act snooty about it and complain about the options.

Whereas a woman with high standards may make adjustments to her meal, either because she has food intolerances or simply preferences, but is apologetic about the inconvenience.

A high value gal may make adjustments but apologizes and leaves a big tip, while a low maintenance woman will simply order from whatever options are available without substitutions or complaint.

Low maintenance gals will take anything they get and be content.

Restaurants

If she’s high maintenance, she’ll expect expensive, fancy or popular restaurants out of her budget and expect you to pay. She might even say thanks, sometimes.

But a lady with high standards may also only want to go to high end establishments, however, she’ll offer to chip in and will always be gracious and appreciative.

And a high value woman might also appreciate the finer restaurants but will either insist on chipping in, offer to pay or make it up to you in some other meaningful way, perhaps by paying for the movie/exhibit or making you dinner etc.

Again, low maintenance women appreciate anywhere!

Change of Plans

High maintenance women freak out when things don’t go as planned and tend to blame you or anyone else even if the situation couldn’t be avoided.

High standards women expect a reasonable effort to commit to scheduled plans but can be flexible when life unexpectedly happens.

And high value women expect you to make an effort but are understanding when things go sideways.

Low maintenance ladies just roll with the punches.

Designer Brands

High maintenance women can expect to have flashy, designer brands they can’t afford but that you pay for. Selfish, entitled.

And while a high standards woman may also appreciate designer brands, she can afford to pay for them herself and does so or at least reciprocates buying similarly worthy gifts for you.

A high value woman can appreciate quality, whether there’s a known label on it or not, and buys her own stuff.

Low maintenance asks for nada.

Nice Home

You guessed it, high maintenance women want the nicest house in town but can’t afford it, won’t work toward it so you get to pay for it.

And yep, a high standards woman may want the same thing but she’ll work her butt along side you to get it.

A high value woman will work for it herself but appreciate if you contribute to her goal—if it’s something only she really wants.

Low maintenance gals will live anywhere.

Money / Income / Wealth

Gold diggers are the best example of high maintenance women when it comes to how much money they want a man to have. They’ve got nothing but their vah-jay-jay to offer.

High standard women may want a man with money but it’s because they also have money and don’t want to pick up the slack.

A high value woman may have her own money or maybe more than her man, but she always makes him feel like the lead provider and King of their castle.

Low maintenance? You guessed it, they don’t really care.

Health / Attractiveness / Style etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man who looks good because she’s shallow, even if she’s lacking in any/all of these areas.

On the other hand, a woman with high standards will want a man with any of these traits because she offers the same standard.

A high value woman may value these traits, can offer them herself but she’ll also work out with you, cook healthy meals and never take these traits for granted.

Low maintenance… yeah, you already know.

Intelligence / Humour / Charm etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man to have these qualities because it impresses others.

But a high value woman wants these qualities because it stimulates her. She can offer up the same qualities.

A high value woman not only appreciates these traits and has them herself but makes sure her man knows how much she appreciates them, while also making an effort to continue to be stimulating for you.

Yep, you may have figured out that sometimes low maintenance can mean low standards, which can mean low self-esteem and that can bring a whole host of other issues, especially if you have higher standards.

The gauge of whether a woman is high maintenance vs high standards is in her attitude, generosity and reciprocity.

Up your game and your standards with my WakeUP2Luv program and get the girl you really want!

Additional resources

Red flags
Hypergamy
She’s a Keeper IF…
Donations & Anna’s Memoir🙏

She Blocked You – Dating Coach for Men


Can You Get Her Back When She Blocked You?

If she blocked you, it’s pretty obvious she doesn’t want to hear from you right now, but in time can you get your ex back when she blocked you?

Short answer: It depends.

First you have to look at the most likely reasons she blocked you.

Common Reasons She Blocked You

  1. You were way too needy, desperate, attentive etc.
  2. She knows you’re bad for her and she’s weak to your charms.
  3. She’s already seeing someone else—or wants to.

Let’s take a closer look at these three reasons she blocked you.

Needy Nelson

Needy behaviour translates into low self-worth.

If you act like you’re the lucky one to be with her, she’ll feel that and feel the same way—you’re the lucky one, not her.

She’ll question your worth because unconsciously you do, too.

She’s unconsciously wondering, “What do you know about you that she doesn’t know?”

It can’t be good.

Bad Boy (For Her)

If you were bad for her you were probably bad to her.

Maybe you were the opposite of needy, you were aloof, disregarding or even disrespectful.

The bad boy part of you—your masculine dominance—probably ignited her attraction but your treatment of her made her cray cray in a bad way way.

At some point, if she has any self-respect, she’ll walk away.

Someone Else on the Scene

Whether because of one of the first two reasons or something else, if she blocked you and moved on to other pastures and has blocked you, she wants to explore something with someone else.

Logic will not convince her to give you another chance. She’s moved on. For now.

In any of these cases, for you to have a chance with her again, she needs to see you as a totally different person than the one she was dating.

  • If you were needy, you need to be independent.
  • If you were aloof, you need to be attentive.

But, Anna.. She. Blocked. Me!

I know, hun, I’m getting to that, be patient.

If there’s any way to show her (not tell her!) indirectly that you are not the guy she dated, then do that.

Post on social media, get your mutual friends to post on social media, things that show you having a life or being a different guy than the one she knew.

At some point, she may unblock you.

  • If you were Mr. Needy, wait at least 30 days to reach out. Sixty if you’re still heartbroken! It will ooze through in your interactions and she’ll feel that and it will be a turnoff.
  • If you were Mr. Aloof, wait 30 days and then reach out.

And if she contacts you first, reply! But don’t be overly anxious.

Be prepared, she will probably test you to see if this new you is real or if you’re faking just to get her back.

In the meantime, the best thing you can do if you were Mr. Needy is to become Mr. High Value by investing in my WakeUP2Luv program and doing the work!

Doing the work makes you a new man women respect.

Hint: Women need to respect you in order to be aroused by you!

There’s a whole lot more detail in the video, so best to watch it. Twice!

Xo AJ

Suggested

Why She Tests You / Handle Her Tests: http://bit.ly/WhySheTestsYouPlaylist
The Friend Zone: http://bit.ly/FriendZonePlaylist
When She Pulls Away: http://bit.ly/WhenShePullsAwayPlaylist
Get a Girl Out of Your League: http://bit.ly/GetGirlOutofYourLeaguePlaylist
Why “Nice Guys” Finish Last: http://bit.ly/NiceGuyPlaylist
Get Over Heartbreak: https://bit.ly/PlaylistHeartbreak

High Maintenance vs High Standard


High Maintenance vs High Standard Women (10 Examples!)

Before we get into high maintenance vs high standard, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.

Questions for You

  • Does the kind of ideal woman you want really exist?
  • Are you offering what she would want?
  • Should you lower your own standards or up your game?

If you’re not sure what she wants or if you want to improve your sexual and relationship market value to where it needs to be for her, you need to do my WakeUP2Luv program.

WakeUP2Luv will help you determine what kind of gal is really right for you—what you think you want and what you really want aren’t usually the same.

And it’ll help you determine which things you want to change about yourself to get that kind of woman—and which things you won’t change.

Hint: Even if you decide to stay single forever, WakeUP2Luv will give you a great sense of satisfaction in life and respect of yourself as well as from others!

Okay, now let’s look at high maintenance vs high standards when it comes to women.

The Difference Between High Maintenance vs High Standards vs High Value

High maintenance comes from a shallow place of insecurity, selfishness and entitlement.

High standards comes from a place of high self esteem based on morals, values and an ability to satisfy our needs by our own means.

In both cases, whether high maintenance or high standards, the woman may require more effort than someone who is low maintenance.

The key is whether or not she’s worth it!

Then we’ve got high value vs low maintenance. The former is ideal; the latter can be a red flag!

A woman’s intentions, attitude and actions help you determine if she’s high maintenance vs high standards in her needs.

How to Tell the Difference Between High Maintenance and High Standard Women

Texting / Calling

High maintenance women need you to text or call all the time. Insecure, controlling.

High standard woman will ask you to reply within a reasonable time. Respect expected.

And high value and low maintenance woman makes no demands and simply accepts you’ll contact her when you want to but replies in a reasonable time reciprocates standards.

Keeping Track of You

High maintenance women demand to know where you are and who you’re with at all times. Controlling, insecure.

A high standards woman requests to know where you are and who you’re with IF you’ll be out later than is usual in your relationship.

And a high value and low maintenance woman says, “Have a great time tonight!” And leaves a snack and love note on the counter for you when you get home if you live together.

Key point: You’ve earned this kind of trust by—wait for it—offering details of where, when and who you’ll be with in advance without having been asked.

Or… you’ve come home early in the past or gone to your own home early in the past and sent a text saying you’re beat, home safe and had a great time but missed her!

Key point on the key point: You don’t stop going out because you miss her!

Autonomy is sexy! And perceived potential competition keeps her wanting you!

Food Preferences

High maintenance women will order a meal with specific and inconvenient alterations simply because she can.

Often she’ll act snooty about it and complain about the options.

Whereas a woman with high standards may make adjustments to her meal, either because she has food intolerances or simply preferences, but is apologetic about the inconvenience.

A high value gal may make adjustments but apologizes and leaves a big tip, while a low maintenance woman will simply order from whatever options are available without substitutions or complaint.

Low maintenance gals will take anything they get and be content.

Restaurants

If she’s high maintenance, she’ll expect expensive, fancy or popular restaurants out of her budget and expect you to pay. She might even say thanks, sometimes.

But a lady with high standards may also only want to go to high end establishments, however, she’ll offer to chip in and will always be gracious and appreciative.

And a high value woman might also appreciate the finer restaurants but will either insist on chipping in, offer to pay or make it up to you in some other meaningful way, perhaps by paying for the movie/exhibit or making you dinner etc.

Again, low maintenance women appreciate anywhere!

Change of Plans

High maintenance women freak out when things don’t go as planned and tend to blame you or anyone else even if the situation couldn’t be avoided.

High standards women expect a reasonable effort to commit to scheduled plans but can be flexible when life unexpectedly happens.

And high value women expect you to make an effort but are understanding when things go sideways.

Low maintenance ladies just roll with the punches.

Designer Brands

High maintenance women can expect to have flashy, designer brands they can’t afford but that you pay for. Selfish, entitled.

And while a high standards woman may also appreciate designer brands, she can afford to pay for them herself and does so or at least reciprocates buying similarly worthy gifts for you.

A high value woman can appreciate quality, whether there’s a known label on it or not, and buys her own stuff.

Low maintenance asks for nada.

Nice Home

You guessed it, high maintenance women want the nicest house in town but can’t afford it, won’t work toward it so you get to pay for it.

And yep, a high standards woman may want the same thing but she’ll work her butt along side you to get it.

A high value woman will work for it herself but appreciate if you contribute to her goal—if it’s something only she really wants.

Low maintenance gals will live anywhere.

Money / Income / Wealth

Gold diggers are the best example of high maintenance women when it comes to how much money they want a man to have. They’ve got nothing but their vah-jay-jay to offer.

High standard women may want a man with money but it’s because they also have money and don’t want to pick up the slack.

A high value woman may have her own money or maybe more than her man, but she always makes him feel like the lead provider and King of their castle.

Low maintenance? You guessed it, they don’t really care.

Health / Attractiveness / Style etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man who looks good because she’s shallow, even if she’s lacking in any/all of these areas.

On the other hand, a woman with high standards will want a man with any of these traits because she offers the same standard.

A high value woman may value these traits, can offer them herself but she’ll also work out with you, cook healthy meals and never take these traits for granted.

Low maintenance… yeah, you already know.

Intelligence / Humour / Charm etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man to have these qualities because it impresses others.

But a high value woman wants these qualities because it stimulates her. She can offer up the same qualities.

A high value woman not only appreciates these traits and has them herself but makes sure her man knows how much she appreciates them, while also making an effort to continue to be stimulating for you.

Yep, you may have figured out that sometimes low maintenance can mean low standards, which can mean low self-esteem and that can bring a whole host of other issues, especially if you have higher standards.

The gauge of whether a woman is high maintenance vs high standards is in her attitude, generosity and reciprocity.

Up your game and your standards with my WakeUP2Luv program and get the girl you really want!

Additional resources

Red flags
Hypergamy
She’s a Keeper IF…
Donations & Anna’s Memoir🙏

Rekindle Sexual Passion – Dating Coach for Men


10 Steps to Rekindle Sexual Passion in a Relationship

Interestingly, I found this info on how to rekindle sexual passion in a book* by Christiane Northrup, M.D. about menopause which was thus borrowed from Dr. Patricia Love’s book, Hot Monogamy*!

Reality Land: Healthy, satisfying relationships are work and love isn’t enough to make a good relationship last.

It happens all the time, after a certain number of years, someone gets bored, and guess what guys, it’s usually the woman.

Men are hunters. Once they’ve caught their game, the chase is over.

But!

If you want to keep a woman happy in a relationship, you’ve got to keep the charge alive by keep the chase alive—in you, for her.

Once you become complacent, it’s only a matter of time before she gets bored and starts slacking off in areas that you enjoy, like her health (read: body) and physical intimacy (read: sex).

Hot Monogamy

A woman needs continued emotional, intellectual and physical stimulus to stay attracted to her man.

Even though men also appreciate these aspects, they primarily need the woman to be ready, willing and able when he feels the urge to merge! 😉

While women are responsible for doing what they can do to keep the spice alive, there are things you can do to help her along and prevent your intimate life from stagnating…

Steps to Rekindle Sexual Passion

  1. Communication. The earlier you start and continue talking about your sex life the easier it’ll be to stay current on changing needs.
  2. Mood. As women get older, desire can wane. Understand spontaneity dwindles and scheduling time for intimacy is important. If your partner agrees intimacy is important to a relationship, see #1 for how to help her get in the mood.
    • Hint: Women require more than physical stimulation at the time to become sensually inspired. See #3.
  3. Intimacy. This is more than any physically intimate acts. Particularly older women and mothers need to feel understood, heard, seen and validated as a person / mother (not just intimate partner) to be able to get in the mood.
    • Hint: Sharing thoughts and feelings helps build intimacy.
  4. Technique. Knowing how to turn yourself on is critical to teaching your partner how to do so. At the same time, you’ll have to set ego/pride aside and learn what she prefers, not just what you think she wants.
  5. Variety. The same ole same ole gets stale ole stale ole with time. Switch something up! But not everything. Be creative either in what you try or where you try it. Refer back to #1 Communication, #3 Intimacy and #4 Technique.
    • Hint: Variety includes creating new stimuli elsewhere in her life as well.
  6. Romance. Knowing and actively expressing love in your partner’s love language adds points to the intimacy piggy bank.
    • Hint: Don’t get lazy and take her for granted! (Way too common. #divorce)
  7. Body image. Women are generally tougher on themselves about their bodies no matter how comfy you are with her body. Men are more visual and women know it. We compare ourselves to media images and after having kids to our former selves. Women need to feel comfortable in their birthday suits to enjoy physical intimacy. Compliment specific parts of her body you love and never compare her to anyone else, including her old self.
    • Hint: If this is a sticky point for her, refer back to #1 and let her know how important physical intimacy is to you and ask what would make her feel more comfortable and sexy, and specifically what you can do.
  8. Sensuality. This isn’t about s-e-x. This is about the whole aura around intimacy, from emotional to physical and everything in between. Use all the senses to help her get into her body (the feminine) and out of her head (the masculine). Whether this is preparing for date night or the happy ending to date night, focus on:
    • Sight: The ambiance of the room; lighting/candles; movies/stories etc.
    • Smell: Women’s sniffers are more sensitive; subtle cologne; clean sheets; good hygiene etc.; pheromones (buy ‘em if you must)!
    • Touch: Start away from the hot zones (T&A), ex. Hold her hand on the way to the restaurant, guide her by placing your hand on the small of her back; later, start slow with a massage; blind-folded feathering or guess-what-this-is; oral is your backup and never forget the clit! 😉
    • Taste: They say oyster or chocolate are aphrodisiacs, but kissing is usually the biggest winner. If you want to get creative (with permission), try flavoured oils or even go 9 1/2 weeks with food — bonus points if you agree in advance to be the janitor after.
    • Sound: Sensual music; phones and tech gadgets off; no kids around (huge distraction for women)! #mothermode
  1. Passion. When we love the person we lust for, passion is ignited. It may take time to rekindle the spark if you’ve neglected the last 8 points, but you can get there again if she’s willing.
    • Hint: You may need to negotiate her non-physical needs for her to want to support your physical needs. Sorry, respectful, fulfilling relationships aren’t unconditional, but they’re still worthwhile.)
      • Bonus tip 1: Passion is also contagious, so if you’re passionate about something in your life—that she hasn’t had to compete with!—this makes you more attractive to her.
      • Bonus tip 2: When you get passionate about something important to her, double point, Sir… which brings us to…
  2. Pleasure. In respect of #9, women are far more able to give and receive pleasure when their general needs are met. The two biggest blockers to her ability to have pleasure are anger and self-doubt/self-limitation. Help her meet those needs or see that those needs are being met and she can relax into pleasure mode.
    • Hint: Not sure what those are? If you have kids, guaranteed there’ll be something to help with in that topic. Otherwise, refer back to #1! Communication—ask her!

There are things she can do to help herself (if she wants to), but since you can only control yourself and you appreciate that power, use this list to start to rekindle the physical passion in your relationship.

More detail in the video, though I’m pretty sure you’re already ready, willing and wanting to watch this one!

If you want to know how to find, attract and/or keep a good woman, no matter what your relationship status, you’ll definitely benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program.

Get it here! And…you’re welcome. 😉

xo AJ

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How To Be A Better Wife And Improve Your Marriage


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secrets for a happy and loving relationshipHow to be a better wife? After a few years of marriage, some of you might have this kind of thought. With your role as a wife and maybe as a mother, you are thinking about how to make them happy.

The good thing is, you are not alone. Every married woman looks forward to giving their best effort and commitment to their relationship. They want to be the best wife for their partner. Why? I believe, there two main reasons why women want to be better wives to their husbands.

The first reason is that they believe that their partner deserves it. Let me give you an example:

If your husband is someone who is always taking care of you, love you, respect you, and be with you when you need him, of course, you also want to give him your best effort. Deep inside your heart, you appreciate his commitment to your marriage and decided to do the same.

The other reason is, you want to be a better wife because you believe that it will changes and improve your marriage. And I also agree with that. I believe that when you put extra effort and commitment into your partner, they will also do the same.

When you tried to love them unconditionally, put extra effort to make them happy, taking care of them, sooner or later, they will keep doing the same. When both of you feel loved by your partner, it will indirectly improve your marriage.

Because in the end, both partners need to give their best effort to build a strong, loving, and lasting marriage. So in this article, I will sum up the main answers to the question of how to become a better wife and become the best partner to your husband.

1- Become his biggest supporter

No matter how tough a man is, he will always need your support, your encouragement, and your belief in him. He will not say it, but he wants you to become his biggest fan.

This concept is almost the same as what we have previously discussed before, in man’s hero instinct. Basically, your man wants to be a hero in your eyes. He wants you to look at him as a dependable, strong, and committed man.

As a good supporter, you can support him in whatever he’s doing. You can admire his spirit, ideas, creativity, determination, and drive. Having someone he loved beside him will boost his confidence and make him feel that he can do whatever he sets his mind to.

2- Be honest with your husband

Whenever you have something in mind, share it with your husband. Honestly, you can’t expect your husband to be your mind reader. If you always giving him hints that he can’t even understand, stop doing that.

Man is a simple creature, if you need something tell him what you need, if something bothered you, learn how to communicate with him. Don’t give him a hint or puzzles that he needs to solve on his own.

Be honest with your husband, tell him what is on your mind even though it would be hurtful, don’t polish the truth. Because men will respect a sincere conversation far more than your efforts to hide the truth.

become a better wife

3- Show respect to your husband, always

Men physically and emotionally could not connect to a woman who disrespects him. This statement has been backup by research and study, it concludes that a man wants to feel respected by his wife.

The best-selling author of Love and Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, writes in his book, “Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court.”

Based on Dr. Emerson Eggerichs data, in his original sample of 400 males, they have been asked this question:

If you were forced to choose one of the following, which would you prefer to endure… to be left alone and unloved in the world, or to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone?

As a result, 74 percent of them said that if they were forced to choose, they would prefer feeling alone and unloved rather than feeling disrespected and inadequate. Meanwhile, the same question has been asked on a female sample and the answer is different.

For women, they found that a comparable majority would rather feel disrespected and inadequate rather than alone and unloved. From this sample, we could say that women need love and men need respect. So if you want to be a better wife, learn how to respect your husband.

4- Give him some space and freedom

Once in a while, guys need to be guys. They usually won’t confess that they need time for themselves. Yet, understanding his needs would make him more comfortable.

This personal space and time can be about his personal hobby or let him go out with their buddies to watch their favorite football game. These simple things are so important in a marriage. As a person, we need to feel free to pursue our own interests, friendship, and time for self-care.

So both of you basically need this. If neither of you has your own space and freedom, it is good to have a discussion about it. Remember, the strongest marriages are those who have their own space and freedom to grow and expand.

This method can definitely help your relationship thrive.

5- Know when to be quiet

Men hate a woman who nags, and that is a fact. Learn how to read the situation first. As an example, your husband just got back from work, and maybe it’s a long day for him. So it is probably not the right time to hear you complaining about this and that.

Know when to hold your tongue will give you a lot of benefits. Less nagging will make your husband feel less attacked, less controlled, and feel more appreciated. From my own experience, I know this is not gonna be easy, but when I manage to do this, I notice that I get more respect from my husband.

Read Next: Lack of communication in a relationship and how to improve it.

Nagging, criticism, and anything similar to it can bring damage to your relationship. So, avoiding habitual nagging is a great step towards being a better wife. It prevents you from being rude, protects you from sins, and makes you gentler.

It also helps you avoid hurting your husband and yourself.

6- Be their partner, not their mother

It is true that women are born with the amazing ability to nurture. They have the power to give life to this world and that nurturing instinct is always within them. But be careful, do not use this natural instinct in your romantic relationship.

Some of you might not realize that when you keep doing stuff for your husband, from cooking to laundry, and everything. Sooner or later, he will be used to this kind of treatment and start to overlooks so many things.

This is also part of the reason why women start nagging. Because they treat their husband like their child and expecting him to respond as one. This will make your husband lose interest in you and eventually it will damage your relationship.

You can get more explanation about this in this post: Feeling Unappreciated In Marriage.

7- Take care of yourself

This is the last and the most important thing that you should do. Being a good partner also means that you need to be good to yourself. Such as take care of your health, hygiene, getting enough sleep, eating healthy food, exercising, and take care of your appearances.

We all know, after years of marriage, with kids around us, we tend to neglect the duty to take care of ourselves. There might be days where we go out without a shower, forget to eat, sloppy appearances, and live in our sweats.

It feels like every day is a fight day. Sooner or later, it will lead to burnout. And burnout is not healthy for your relationship and your family. That is why you should not forget to take care of yourself. Remember, you are a person before you were “mom/wife.”

Read Next: Mend The Marriage Review – Can this program save your marriage?

Another aspect of self-care is to do things that make you happy. Find time to go out with your friends, engage in activities that you love, and do something fun. The rule of thumb is very simple, happy wife, happy life!

Be The Best Version of You

It is undeniable that married people need to keep their partner as their main priority. Once you start to treat your partner as your main priority, they will slowly aware of your effort and might even start to do the same.

After all, marriage is not a one-person job. Both of you need to work together, support each other, and appreciate one another. Sometimes a hard storm will creep up on you, but you need to keep going, cause you know the rainbow will emerge.

A couple that prays together stays together. I hope this simple advice can give benefit to your relationship and your marriage. If you got any tips on how to be a better wife, please leave your comment below, I would love to hear them. Wish you all a good day ahead!