High Maintenance vs High Standard (New video added!)


High Maintenance vs High Standard Women (10 Examples!)

Before we get into high maintenance vs high standard, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.

Questions for You

  • Does the kind of ideal woman you want really exist?
  • Are you offering what she would want?
  • Should you lower your own standards or up your game?

If you’re not sure what she wants or if you want to improve your sexual and relationship market value to where it needs to be for her, you need to do my WakeUP2Luv program.

WakeUP2Luv will help you determine what kind of gal is really right for you—what you think you want and what you really want aren’t usually the same.

And it’ll help you determine which things you want to change about yourself to get that kind of woman—and which things you won’t change.

Hint: Even if you decide to stay single forever, WakeUP2Luv will give you a great sense of satisfaction in life and respect of yourself as well as from others!

Okay, now let’s look at high maintenance vs high standards when it comes to women.

The Difference Between High Maintenance vs High Standards vs High Value

High maintenance comes from a shallow place of insecurity, selfishness and entitlement.

High standards comes from a place of high self esteem based on morals, values and an ability to satisfy our needs by our own means.

In both cases, whether high maintenance or high standards, the woman may require more effort than someone who is low maintenance.

The key is whether or not she’s worth it!

Then we’ve got high value vs low maintenance. The former is ideal; the latter can be a red flag!

A woman’s intentions, attitude and actions help you determine if she’s high maintenance vs high standards in her needs.

How to Tell the Difference Between High Maintenance and High Standard Women

Texting / Calling

High maintenance women need you to text or call all the time. Insecure, controlling.

High standard woman will ask you to reply within a reasonable time. Respect expected.

And high value and low maintenance woman makes no demands and simply accepts you’ll contact her when you want to but replies in a reasonable time reciprocates standards.

Keeping Track of You

High maintenance women demand to know where you are and who you’re with at all times. Controlling, insecure.

A high standards woman requests to know where you are and who you’re with IF you’ll be out later than is usual in your relationship.

And a high value and low maintenance woman says, “Have a great time tonight!” And leaves a snack and love note on the counter for you when you get home if you live together.

Key point: You’ve earned this kind of trust by—wait for it—offering details of where, when and who you’ll be with in advance without having been asked.

Or… you’ve come home early in the past or gone to your own home early in the past and sent a text saying you’re beat, home safe and had a great time but missed her!

Key point on the key point: You don’t stop going out because you miss her!

Autonomy is sexy! And perceived potential competition keeps her wanting you!

Food Preferences

High maintenance women will order a meal with specific and inconvenient alterations simply because she can.

Often she’ll act snooty about it and complain about the options.

Whereas a woman with high standards may make adjustments to her meal, either because she has food intolerances or simply preferences, but is apologetic about the inconvenience.

A high value gal may make adjustments but apologizes and leaves a big tip, while a low maintenance woman will simply order from whatever options are available without substitutions or complaint.

Low maintenance gals will take anything they get and be content.

Restaurants

If she’s high maintenance, she’ll expect expensive, fancy or popular restaurants out of her budget and expect you to pay. She might even say thanks, sometimes.

But a lady with high standards may also only want to go to high end establishments, however, she’ll offer to chip in and will always be gracious and appreciative.

And a high value woman might also appreciate the finer restaurants but will either insist on chipping in, offer to pay or make it up to you in some other meaningful way, perhaps by paying for the movie/exhibit or making you dinner etc.

Again, low maintenance women appreciate anywhere!

Change of Plans

High maintenance women freak out when things don’t go as planned and tend to blame you or anyone else even if the situation couldn’t be avoided.

High standards women expect a reasonable effort to commit to scheduled plans but can be flexible when life unexpectedly happens.

And high value women expect you to make an effort but are understanding when things go sideways.

Low maintenance ladies just roll with the punches.

Designer Brands

High maintenance women can expect to have flashy, designer brands they can’t afford but that you pay for. Selfish, entitled.

And while a high standards woman may also appreciate designer brands, she can afford to pay for them herself and does so or at least reciprocates buying similarly worthy gifts for you.

A high value woman can appreciate quality, whether there’s a known label on it or not, and buys her own stuff.

Low maintenance asks for nada.

Nice Home

You guessed it, high maintenance women want the nicest house in town but can’t afford it, won’t work toward it so you get to pay for it.

And yep, a high standards woman may want the same thing but she’ll work her butt along side you to get it.

A high value woman will work for it herself but appreciate if you contribute to her goal—if it’s something only she really wants.

Low maintenance gals will live anywhere.

Money / Income / Wealth

Gold diggers are the best example of high maintenance women when it comes to how much money they want a man to have. They’ve got nothing but their vah-jay-jay to offer.

High standard women may want a man with money but it’s because they also have money and don’t want to pick up the slack.

A high value woman may have her own money or maybe more than her man, but she always makes him feel like the lead provider and King of their castle.

Low maintenance? You guessed it, they don’t really care.

Health / Attractiveness / Style etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man who looks good because she’s shallow, even if she’s lacking in any/all of these areas.

On the other hand, a woman with high standards will want a man with any of these traits because she offers the same standard.

A high value woman may value these traits, can offer them herself but she’ll also work out with you, cook healthy meals and never take these traits for granted.

Low maintenance… yeah, you already know.

Intelligence / Humour / Charm etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man to have these qualities because it impresses others.

But a high value woman wants these qualities because it stimulates her. She can offer up the same qualities.

A high value woman not only appreciates these traits and has them herself but makes sure her man knows how much she appreciates them, while also making an effort to continue to be stimulating for you.

Yep, you may have figured out that sometimes low maintenance can mean low standards, which can mean low self-esteem and that can bring a whole host of other issues, especially if you have higher standards.

The gauge of whether a woman is high maintenance vs high standards is in her attitude, generosity and reciprocity.

Up your game and your standards with my WakeUP2Luv program and get the girl you really want!

Additional resources

Red flags
Hypergamy
She’s a Keeper IF…
Donations & Anna’s Memoir🙏

She Blocked You – Dating Coach for Men


Can You Get Her Back When She Blocked You?

If she blocked you, it’s pretty obvious she doesn’t want to hear from you right now, but in time can you get your ex back when she blocked you?

Short answer: It depends.

First you have to look at the most likely reasons she blocked you.

Common Reasons She Blocked You

  1. You were way too needy, desperate, attentive etc.
  2. She knows you’re bad for her and she’s weak to your charms.
  3. She’s already seeing someone else—or wants to.

Let’s take a closer look at these three reasons she blocked you.

Needy Nelson

Needy behaviour translates into low self-worth.

If you act like you’re the lucky one to be with her, she’ll feel that and feel the same way—you’re the lucky one, not her.

She’ll question your worth because unconsciously you do, too.

She’s unconsciously wondering, “What do you know about you that she doesn’t know?”

It can’t be good.

Bad Boy (For Her)

If you were bad for her you were probably bad to her.

Maybe you were the opposite of needy, you were aloof, disregarding or even disrespectful.

The bad boy part of you—your masculine dominance—probably ignited her attraction but your treatment of her made her cray cray in a bad way way.

At some point, if she has any self-respect, she’ll walk away.

Someone Else on the Scene

Whether because of one of the first two reasons or something else, if she blocked you and moved on to other pastures and has blocked you, she wants to explore something with someone else.

Logic will not convince her to give you another chance. She’s moved on. For now.

In any of these cases, for you to have a chance with her again, she needs to see you as a totally different person than the one she was dating.

  • If you were needy, you need to be independent.
  • If you were aloof, you need to be attentive.

But, Anna.. She. Blocked. Me!

I know, hun, I’m getting to that, be patient.

If there’s any way to show her (not tell her!) indirectly that you are not the guy she dated, then do that.

Post on social media, get your mutual friends to post on social media, things that show you having a life or being a different guy than the one she knew.

At some point, she may unblock you.

  • If you were Mr. Needy, wait at least 30 days to reach out. Sixty if you’re still heartbroken! It will ooze through in your interactions and she’ll feel that and it will be a turnoff.
  • If you were Mr. Aloof, wait 30 days and then reach out.

And if she contacts you first, reply! But don’t be overly anxious.

Be prepared, she will probably test you to see if this new you is real or if you’re faking just to get her back.

In the meantime, the best thing you can do if you were Mr. Needy is to become Mr. High Value by investing in my WakeUP2Luv program and doing the work!

Doing the work makes you a new man women respect.

Hint: Women need to respect you in order to be aroused by you!

There’s a whole lot more detail in the video, so best to watch it. Twice!

Xo AJ

Suggested

Why She Tests You / Handle Her Tests: http://bit.ly/WhySheTestsYouPlaylist
The Friend Zone: http://bit.ly/FriendZonePlaylist
When She Pulls Away: http://bit.ly/WhenShePullsAwayPlaylist
Get a Girl Out of Your League: http://bit.ly/GetGirlOutofYourLeaguePlaylist
Why “Nice Guys” Finish Last: http://bit.ly/NiceGuyPlaylist
Get Over Heartbreak: https://bit.ly/PlaylistHeartbreak

High Maintenance vs High Standard


High Maintenance vs High Standard Women (10 Examples!)

Before we get into high maintenance vs high standard, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.

Questions for You

  • Does the kind of ideal woman you want really exist?
  • Are you offering what she would want?
  • Should you lower your own standards or up your game?

If you’re not sure what she wants or if you want to improve your sexual and relationship market value to where it needs to be for her, you need to do my WakeUP2Luv program.

WakeUP2Luv will help you determine what kind of gal is really right for you—what you think you want and what you really want aren’t usually the same.

And it’ll help you determine which things you want to change about yourself to get that kind of woman—and which things you won’t change.

Hint: Even if you decide to stay single forever, WakeUP2Luv will give you a great sense of satisfaction in life and respect of yourself as well as from others!

Okay, now let’s look at high maintenance vs high standards when it comes to women.

The Difference Between High Maintenance vs High Standards vs High Value

High maintenance comes from a shallow place of insecurity, selfishness and entitlement.

High standards comes from a place of high self esteem based on morals, values and an ability to satisfy our needs by our own means.

In both cases, whether high maintenance or high standards, the woman may require more effort than someone who is low maintenance.

The key is whether or not she’s worth it!

Then we’ve got high value vs low maintenance. The former is ideal; the latter can be a red flag!

A woman’s intentions, attitude and actions help you determine if she’s high maintenance vs high standards in her needs.

How to Tell the Difference Between High Maintenance and High Standard Women

Texting / Calling

High maintenance women need you to text or call all the time. Insecure, controlling.

High standard woman will ask you to reply within a reasonable time. Respect expected.

And high value and low maintenance woman makes no demands and simply accepts you’ll contact her when you want to but replies in a reasonable time reciprocates standards.

Keeping Track of You

High maintenance women demand to know where you are and who you’re with at all times. Controlling, insecure.

A high standards woman requests to know where you are and who you’re with IF you’ll be out later than is usual in your relationship.

And a high value and low maintenance woman says, “Have a great time tonight!” And leaves a snack and love note on the counter for you when you get home if you live together.

Key point: You’ve earned this kind of trust by—wait for it—offering details of where, when and who you’ll be with in advance without having been asked.

Or… you’ve come home early in the past or gone to your own home early in the past and sent a text saying you’re beat, home safe and had a great time but missed her!

Key point on the key point: You don’t stop going out because you miss her!

Autonomy is sexy! And perceived potential competition keeps her wanting you!

Food Preferences

High maintenance women will order a meal with specific and inconvenient alterations simply because she can.

Often she’ll act snooty about it and complain about the options.

Whereas a woman with high standards may make adjustments to her meal, either because she has food intolerances or simply preferences, but is apologetic about the inconvenience.

A high value gal may make adjustments but apologizes and leaves a big tip, while a low maintenance woman will simply order from whatever options are available without substitutions or complaint.

Low maintenance gals will take anything they get and be content.

Restaurants

If she’s high maintenance, she’ll expect expensive, fancy or popular restaurants out of her budget and expect you to pay. She might even say thanks, sometimes.

But a lady with high standards may also only want to go to high end establishments, however, she’ll offer to chip in and will always be gracious and appreciative.

And a high value woman might also appreciate the finer restaurants but will either insist on chipping in, offer to pay or make it up to you in some other meaningful way, perhaps by paying for the movie/exhibit or making you dinner etc.

Again, low maintenance women appreciate anywhere!

Change of Plans

High maintenance women freak out when things don’t go as planned and tend to blame you or anyone else even if the situation couldn’t be avoided.

High standards women expect a reasonable effort to commit to scheduled plans but can be flexible when life unexpectedly happens.

And high value women expect you to make an effort but are understanding when things go sideways.

Low maintenance ladies just roll with the punches.

Designer Brands

High maintenance women can expect to have flashy, designer brands they can’t afford but that you pay for. Selfish, entitled.

And while a high standards woman may also appreciate designer brands, she can afford to pay for them herself and does so or at least reciprocates buying similarly worthy gifts for you.

A high value woman can appreciate quality, whether there’s a known label on it or not, and buys her own stuff.

Low maintenance asks for nada.

Nice Home

You guessed it, high maintenance women want the nicest house in town but can’t afford it, won’t work toward it so you get to pay for it.

And yep, a high standards woman may want the same thing but she’ll work her butt along side you to get it.

A high value woman will work for it herself but appreciate if you contribute to her goal—if it’s something only she really wants.

Low maintenance gals will live anywhere.

Money / Income / Wealth

Gold diggers are the best example of high maintenance women when it comes to how much money they want a man to have. They’ve got nothing but their vah-jay-jay to offer.

High standard women may want a man with money but it’s because they also have money and don’t want to pick up the slack.

A high value woman may have her own money or maybe more than her man, but she always makes him feel like the lead provider and King of their castle.

Low maintenance? You guessed it, they don’t really care.

Health / Attractiveness / Style etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man who looks good because she’s shallow, even if she’s lacking in any/all of these areas.

On the other hand, a woman with high standards will want a man with any of these traits because she offers the same standard.

A high value woman may value these traits, can offer them herself but she’ll also work out with you, cook healthy meals and never take these traits for granted.

Low maintenance… yeah, you already know.

Intelligence / Humour / Charm etc

A high maintenance woman will want a man to have these qualities because it impresses others.

But a high value woman wants these qualities because it stimulates her. She can offer up the same qualities.

A high value woman not only appreciates these traits and has them herself but makes sure her man knows how much she appreciates them, while also making an effort to continue to be stimulating for you.

Yep, you may have figured out that sometimes low maintenance can mean low standards, which can mean low self-esteem and that can bring a whole host of other issues, especially if you have higher standards.

The gauge of whether a woman is high maintenance vs high standards is in her attitude, generosity and reciprocity.

Up your game and your standards with my WakeUP2Luv program and get the girl you really want!

Additional resources

Red flags
Hypergamy
She’s a Keeper IF…
Donations & Anna’s Memoir🙏

Rekindle Sexual Passion – Dating Coach for Men


10 Steps to Rekindle Sexual Passion in a Relationship

Interestingly, I found this info on how to rekindle sexual passion in a book* by Christiane Northrup, M.D. about menopause which was thus borrowed from Dr. Patricia Love’s book, Hot Monogamy*!

Reality Land: Healthy, satisfying relationships are work and love isn’t enough to make a good relationship last.

It happens all the time, after a certain number of years, someone gets bored, and guess what guys, it’s usually the woman.

Men are hunters. Once they’ve caught their game, the chase is over.

But!

If you want to keep a woman happy in a relationship, you’ve got to keep the charge alive by keep the chase alive—in you, for her.

Once you become complacent, it’s only a matter of time before she gets bored and starts slacking off in areas that you enjoy, like her health (read: body) and physical intimacy (read: sex).

Hot Monogamy

A woman needs continued emotional, intellectual and physical stimulus to stay attracted to her man.

Even though men also appreciate these aspects, they primarily need the woman to be ready, willing and able when he feels the urge to merge! 😉

While women are responsible for doing what they can do to keep the spice alive, there are things you can do to help her along and prevent your intimate life from stagnating…

Steps to Rekindle Sexual Passion

  1. Communication. The earlier you start and continue talking about your sex life the easier it’ll be to stay current on changing needs.
  2. Mood. As women get older, desire can wane. Understand spontaneity dwindles and scheduling time for intimacy is important. If your partner agrees intimacy is important to a relationship, see #1 for how to help her get in the mood.
    • Hint: Women require more than physical stimulation at the time to become sensually inspired. See #3.
  3. Intimacy. This is more than any physically intimate acts. Particularly older women and mothers need to feel understood, heard, seen and validated as a person / mother (not just intimate partner) to be able to get in the mood.
    • Hint: Sharing thoughts and feelings helps build intimacy.
  4. Technique. Knowing how to turn yourself on is critical to teaching your partner how to do so. At the same time, you’ll have to set ego/pride aside and learn what she prefers, not just what you think she wants.
  5. Variety. The same ole same ole gets stale ole stale ole with time. Switch something up! But not everything. Be creative either in what you try or where you try it. Refer back to #1 Communication, #3 Intimacy and #4 Technique.
    • Hint: Variety includes creating new stimuli elsewhere in her life as well.
  6. Romance. Knowing and actively expressing love in your partner’s love language adds points to the intimacy piggy bank.
    • Hint: Don’t get lazy and take her for granted! (Way too common. #divorce)
  7. Body image. Women are generally tougher on themselves about their bodies no matter how comfy you are with her body. Men are more visual and women know it. We compare ourselves to media images and after having kids to our former selves. Women need to feel comfortable in their birthday suits to enjoy physical intimacy. Compliment specific parts of her body you love and never compare her to anyone else, including her old self.
    • Hint: If this is a sticky point for her, refer back to #1 and let her know how important physical intimacy is to you and ask what would make her feel more comfortable and sexy, and specifically what you can do.
  8. Sensuality. This isn’t about s-e-x. This is about the whole aura around intimacy, from emotional to physical and everything in between. Use all the senses to help her get into her body (the feminine) and out of her head (the masculine). Whether this is preparing for date night or the happy ending to date night, focus on:
    • Sight: The ambiance of the room; lighting/candles; movies/stories etc.
    • Smell: Women’s sniffers are more sensitive; subtle cologne; clean sheets; good hygiene etc.; pheromones (buy ‘em if you must)!
    • Touch: Start away from the hot zones (T&A), ex. Hold her hand on the way to the restaurant, guide her by placing your hand on the small of her back; later, start slow with a massage; blind-folded feathering or guess-what-this-is; oral is your backup and never forget the clit! 😉
    • Taste: They say oyster or chocolate are aphrodisiacs, but kissing is usually the biggest winner. If you want to get creative (with permission), try flavoured oils or even go 9 1/2 weeks with food — bonus points if you agree in advance to be the janitor after.
    • Sound: Sensual music; phones and tech gadgets off; no kids around (huge distraction for women)! #mothermode
  1. Passion. When we love the person we lust for, passion is ignited. It may take time to rekindle the spark if you’ve neglected the last 8 points, but you can get there again if she’s willing.
    • Hint: You may need to negotiate her non-physical needs for her to want to support your physical needs. Sorry, respectful, fulfilling relationships aren’t unconditional, but they’re still worthwhile.)
      • Bonus tip 1: Passion is also contagious, so if you’re passionate about something in your life—that she hasn’t had to compete with!—this makes you more attractive to her.
      • Bonus tip 2: When you get passionate about something important to her, double point, Sir… which brings us to…
  2. Pleasure. In respect of #9, women are far more able to give and receive pleasure when their general needs are met. The two biggest blockers to her ability to have pleasure are anger and self-doubt/self-limitation. Help her meet those needs or see that those needs are being met and she can relax into pleasure mode.
    • Hint: Not sure what those are? If you have kids, guaranteed there’ll be something to help with in that topic. Otherwise, refer back to #1! Communication—ask her!

There are things she can do to help herself (if she wants to), but since you can only control yourself and you appreciate that power, use this list to start to rekindle the physical passion in your relationship.

More detail in the video, though I’m pretty sure you’re already ready, willing and wanting to watch this one!

If you want to know how to find, attract and/or keep a good woman, no matter what your relationship status, you’ll definitely benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program.

Get it here! And…you’re welcome. 😉

xo AJ

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How To Be A Better Wife And Improve Your Marriage


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secrets for a happy and loving relationshipHow to be a better wife? After a few years of marriage, some of you might have this kind of thought. With your role as a wife and maybe as a mother, you are thinking about how to make them happy.

The good thing is, you are not alone. Every married woman looks forward to giving their best effort and commitment to their relationship. They want to be the best wife for their partner. Why? I believe, there two main reasons why women want to be better wives to their husbands.

The first reason is that they believe that their partner deserves it. Let me give you an example:

If your husband is someone who is always taking care of you, love you, respect you, and be with you when you need him, of course, you also want to give him your best effort. Deep inside your heart, you appreciate his commitment to your marriage and decided to do the same.

The other reason is, you want to be a better wife because you believe that it will changes and improve your marriage. And I also agree with that. I believe that when you put extra effort and commitment into your partner, they will also do the same.

When you tried to love them unconditionally, put extra effort to make them happy, taking care of them, sooner or later, they will keep doing the same. When both of you feel loved by your partner, it will indirectly improve your marriage.

Because in the end, both partners need to give their best effort to build a strong, loving, and lasting marriage. So in this article, I will sum up the main answers to the question of how to become a better wife and become the best partner to your husband.

1- Become his biggest supporter

No matter how tough a man is, he will always need your support, your encouragement, and your belief in him. He will not say it, but he wants you to become his biggest fan.

This concept is almost the same as what we have previously discussed before, in man’s hero instinct. Basically, your man wants to be a hero in your eyes. He wants you to look at him as a dependable, strong, and committed man.

As a good supporter, you can support him in whatever he’s doing. You can admire his spirit, ideas, creativity, determination, and drive. Having someone he loved beside him will boost his confidence and make him feel that he can do whatever he sets his mind to.

2- Be honest with your husband

Whenever you have something in mind, share it with your husband. Honestly, you can’t expect your husband to be your mind reader. If you always giving him hints that he can’t even understand, stop doing that.

Man is a simple creature, if you need something tell him what you need, if something bothered you, learn how to communicate with him. Don’t give him a hint or puzzles that he needs to solve on his own.

Be honest with your husband, tell him what is on your mind even though it would be hurtful, don’t polish the truth. Because men will respect a sincere conversation far more than your efforts to hide the truth.

become a better wife

3- Show respect to your husband, always

Men physically and emotionally could not connect to a woman who disrespects him. This statement has been backup by research and study, it concludes that a man wants to feel respected by his wife.

The best-selling author of Love and Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, writes in his book, “Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court.”

Based on Dr. Emerson Eggerichs data, in his original sample of 400 males, they have been asked this question:

If you were forced to choose one of the following, which would you prefer to endure… to be left alone and unloved in the world, or to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone?

As a result, 74 percent of them said that if they were forced to choose, they would prefer feeling alone and unloved rather than feeling disrespected and inadequate. Meanwhile, the same question has been asked on a female sample and the answer is different.

For women, they found that a comparable majority would rather feel disrespected and inadequate rather than alone and unloved. From this sample, we could say that women need love and men need respect. So if you want to be a better wife, learn how to respect your husband.

4- Give him some space and freedom

Once in a while, guys need to be guys. They usually won’t confess that they need time for themselves. Yet, understanding his needs would make him more comfortable.

This personal space and time can be about his personal hobby or let him go out with their buddies to watch their favorite football game. These simple things are so important in a marriage. As a person, we need to feel free to pursue our own interests, friendship, and time for self-care.

So both of you basically need this. If neither of you has your own space and freedom, it is good to have a discussion about it. Remember, the strongest marriages are those who have their own space and freedom to grow and expand.

This method can definitely help your relationship thrive.

5- Know when to be quiet

Men hate a woman who nags, and that is a fact. Learn how to read the situation first. As an example, your husband just got back from work, and maybe it’s a long day for him. So it is probably not the right time to hear you complaining about this and that.

Know when to hold your tongue will give you a lot of benefits. Less nagging will make your husband feel less attacked, less controlled, and feel more appreciated. From my own experience, I know this is not gonna be easy, but when I manage to do this, I notice that I get more respect from my husband.

Read Next: Lack of communication in a relationship and how to improve it.

Nagging, criticism, and anything similar to it can bring damage to your relationship. So, avoiding habitual nagging is a great step towards being a better wife. It prevents you from being rude, protects you from sins, and makes you gentler.

It also helps you avoid hurting your husband and yourself.

6- Be their partner, not their mother

It is true that women are born with the amazing ability to nurture. They have the power to give life to this world and that nurturing instinct is always within them. But be careful, do not use this natural instinct in your romantic relationship.

Some of you might not realize that when you keep doing stuff for your husband, from cooking to laundry, and everything. Sooner or later, he will be used to this kind of treatment and start to overlooks so many things.

This is also part of the reason why women start nagging. Because they treat their husband like their child and expecting him to respond as one. This will make your husband lose interest in you and eventually it will damage your relationship.

You can get more explanation about this in this post: Feeling Unappreciated In Marriage.

7- Take care of yourself

This is the last and the most important thing that you should do. Being a good partner also means that you need to be good to yourself. Such as take care of your health, hygiene, getting enough sleep, eating healthy food, exercising, and take care of your appearances.

We all know, after years of marriage, with kids around us, we tend to neglect the duty to take care of ourselves. There might be days where we go out without a shower, forget to eat, sloppy appearances, and live in our sweats.

It feels like every day is a fight day. Sooner or later, it will lead to burnout. And burnout is not healthy for your relationship and your family. That is why you should not forget to take care of yourself. Remember, you are a person before you were “mom/wife.”

Read Next: Mend The Marriage Review – Can this program save your marriage?

Another aspect of self-care is to do things that make you happy. Find time to go out with your friends, engage in activities that you love, and do something fun. The rule of thumb is very simple, happy wife, happy life!

Be The Best Version of You

It is undeniable that married people need to keep their partner as their main priority. Once you start to treat your partner as your main priority, they will slowly aware of your effort and might even start to do the same.

After all, marriage is not a one-person job. Both of you need to work together, support each other, and appreciate one another. Sometimes a hard storm will creep up on you, but you need to keep going, cause you know the rainbow will emerge.

A couple that prays together stays together. I hope this simple advice can give benefit to your relationship and your marriage. If you got any tips on how to be a better wife, please leave your comment below, I would love to hear them. Wish you all a good day ahead!

10 Secrets Women Don’t Want Men to Know


Secrets Women Don’t Want Men to Know About Us

There are many more than 10 secrets women don’t ant men to know about us, but these are the ones you want to know about!

So let’s get right into it…

1. We tell our girlfriends about you.

We think about about way down the road way too early in the relationship.

#2 is too juicy — but stay tuned, I won’t disappoint you! 😉

3. We over analyze everything you say or do anywhere, anytime, in real life and online.

We are hyper aware of you!

4. We don’t want you to know our “tally” 😉

Especially if we think you’ll think the number of men we’ve been with is too high. And it probably is because—

men prefer selective women with standards (for long term relationships)!

Another of the secrets women don’t want men to know is about…

5. Anything that could turn you off.

Examples include:

  • Medical condition
  • Mental condition
  • Bad relationships
  • No job / in debt
  • Family Issues

And even though women are hypergamous in nature—valuing money, power, status, looks and intelligence—the next of the 10 secrets women don’t want men to know is that—

6. We’ll compromise our innate hypergamous desires if you make us happy.

She just doesn’t want you to slack off!

7. We keep track of points differently!

You set up a whole romantic evening with many moving parts thinking you’ve scored big time and are way ahead of the love game when in fact you get one point.

I know, it’s so unfair, nonetheless, don’t rob the love piggy bank thinking you’re ahead!

8. Women need more stimulation in relationships!

  • Physical
  • Mental
  • Emotional

Sorry, Sir, relationships require continuous effort!

Especially if you’ve slacked in an area that was a selling feature!

You are the product!

If she’s been moody lately, you must ask yourself if you’ve let your warranty run out.

Warning signs:

  • Losing weight
  • Working out
  • Cuts her hair

If a woman is unhappy…

9. She’ll wonder who else is available.

You can only do what you can do!

But there is a lot you can do to keep her eye and heart from wondering and wandering.

Do what you can.

10. Women want a man who’s good at seduction!

When a woman is seduced, she can relax into her feminine and receive your masculine energy. And all the other fun parts! 😉

And now, back to #2, the juicy one…

2. No matter how gorgeous she is, most women are insecure about their bodies.

Compliment specific parts of her body!

Yep, her lips (both sets ;)—gasp!), breasts, nipples etc. #bespecific

Bonus Tip!

A lot of men don’t know how to compliment an attractive woman effectively.

Women prefer to be called “beautiful” over “hot”

Unless she’s under 25 or at the bar dressed like a skank or you’ve already been in your birthday suits together.

Just trust that “beautiful” is always a safe bet!

You’re welcome.

x AJ

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