Love, honor, and cherish are three words that we uttered during a marriage ceremony. But after years of marriage, some of us might even forget how to cherish our spouse. You might love your spouse, but did you really cherish them?
Cherishing your spouse means that you recognize their value and care for that person lovingly. You love them, protect them, adore them, and take care of them. You also respect, honor, and look up to that person.
When you cherish your spouse, you do not take them for granted. You show appreciation for the things they do. Trust me, if you keep doing these, you will have a healthy relationship that is filled with happiness, joy, and most importantly is love.
How To Make Your Spouse Feel Special
At the early stage of dating, when we’re getting to know each other, we often think about our lover. Our thoughts are fulfilled with the one we love and we always want to please them. We learn how to treat them better, how to make them feel happy, and how to make them feel loved.
Unfortunately, this romantic feeling started to fade away after years of marriage. Most of the reasons are because we get caught up with our daily life routine. We have kids to take care of, we busy with our careers, our works, and so much more.
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When we’re too busy with our daily routine, we tend to forget that our spouse also needs our attention. They might not be showing it, but deep down in their heart, they want to know that you care about them and feel grateful to have them in your life.
The good news is, cherishing your spouse is something you can learn. And it doesn’t really take a lot of effort to make your spouse feel cherished. Even your small action will make their day.
So to give you some good ideas on how to cherish your spouse, here are the tips:
1# Compliment Your Spouse To Make Them Feel Valued
If you want to learn to cherish your spouse, start by changing the ways you treat them and demonstrate your love, care, and affection. One of the signs that your relationship is moving in the right direction is when your spouse acknowledges how you are brightening up their day.
And the easiest way to that is to give your spouse a compliment. Say something nice to them, something that can make your partner happy. To compliment effectively, focus on how they make you feel, and please do not exaggerate.
2# Give Meaningful Present
A gift is a tangible acknowledgment that your spouse is on your thoughts. Leaving the present with a little note can mean a lot. It doesn’t need to be expensive. You can give her anything as long as it is meaningful and sincere from your heart.
If you are not sure what to give to your partner, pay attention to the conversation. They might give you a hint about something they wanted. As an example, food that they would like to try, or things that they are interested in.
Also, don’t forget to write her some love notes in a place that easily discover. Your spouse will love the fact that you took the time to write those loving words for them.
3# Spend Quality Time Together
Take your spouse on a romantic weekend trip, no kids, just the two of you. You can plan the whole trip and surprise your spouse. Use this opportunity to spend quality time together, try to have some fun, and create wonderful memories that will last forever.
If you have some restrictions on traveling, you can just spend your quality time together at your home. It can be spent anywhere as long as both of you enjoying the time together, laugh together, and feel good around each other.
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Because the most important part of spending quality time together is, both of you can connect in a positive way and create a deeper connection. You can just have a drink together at home or camping in your own yard.