Most of us are too excited to plan a wedding and forgot that there are a lot more things to do before exchanging your vows. A wedding is one day, but a marriage is the rest of your life. Thus it is important for you to learn how to prepare yourself for marriage.
Marriage is an institution that changes the lives, lifestyles, and responsibilities of a woman forever. We learn how to make changes to incorporate the one important person and make them a priority in our lives.
Dedicating yourself to someone else for the rest of your life is a serious business. It needs your personal commitment, love, dedication, and hard work to keep survive. That is why you should plan for a marriage and not just for a wedding.
Sounds like a lot of work? Well, it is. The wife is genuinely the soul of the marriage and no relationship can be completely successful without her love.
How To Prepare Yourself To Be A Good Wife In Marriage?
Getting ready for marriage doesn’t have to be overwhelming, make it simple but significant. You can try to have this mindset, just as you want a good husband, your husband also wants a good wife.
But what is the real meaning of a good wife? Well, it may not what you think it is.
Modern, progressive women may have a though time to accept the idea of a ‘good wife.’ Because the normal answer they got from the term ‘good wife’ is to know how to clean the house, take care of the kids, and always look your best for your husband.
But it’s no longer necessary nowadays. In this article, we will explore the different ideas and qualities that you need to become a good wife in your own term.
1# Be a supportive partner.
Being a supportive partner can mean a lot to your future husbands. Be it a career, a hobby, or anything else that your husband pursues, he will need your support. Remember the quotes, “behind every successful man, there is a woman,” or “A man with dreams needs a woman with a vision.” So be that woman.
Be a supportive wife also mean that you need to appreciate him, push him, and praise him when he achieves a milestone or tries something new. It is about encouraging him to improve or offering constructive criticism in whatever he is doing.
If you are able to provide your partners with emotional fulfillment by being supportive, you will create a new depth of love in your relationship and create a better future.
2# Learn to serve
I strongly believe that, if you want to be happy in your marriage, you need to serve each other. A husband has what his wife needs and a wife also has what her husband needs. That is how God designed marriage, for us to serve each other.
“Don’t demand change from others before you change yourself.”
If you want your partner to serve you after marriage, maybe you could be the first one who set up the example. If you manage to start doing those things yourself, you’ll begin to see that your partner also start to follow your direction.
Read more: How To Cherish Your Spouse
3# Show of your cooking skill
Remember the old adage, ‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.’ But some of you might be skeptical about this, especially if both of you are working. You think that both of you should share this responsibility, women are not the only ones who need to cook.
Well, that’s fair enough. But my point is when it comes to your turn to prepare the meal, use the opportunity to win his heart. Food is one of the ways to show someone that you care for them. Spend some time to learn about his favorite dishes.
Men always believe that dished prepared from their partner is filled with love.
4# Learn to respect
Men crave for respect and honor, while women look for love and romance. I still remember after years of marriage with my husband, I ask him this question, “Between love and respect, which one you require more?”
And his answer surprised me: “Respect.”
Then I found out men said they would rather feel unloved than disrespected. God gave men a special deep need for respect. They naturally want people to respect him, especially from their partner.
Your respect makes him believe that he can do hard things, protect you from danger, take care of the family, and reduces his fear of failure. Your respect also encourages him to be a good leader to your family in the future.
5# Learn more about man’s hero instinct
Men are born with this immature instinct. They want to be a hero in their woman’s eyes. Psychologically, this instinct is about their satisfaction and their desire to feel important. They want to show how useful, strong, and effective he is among his peers.
This natural instinct already shows up when they are still a kid. You can clearly see the signs of a hero when you look at the boy’s interest, they want to be a Superman, Batman, Ironman, and more. They want to save the world and protect the one they love.
So your task is to learn how this hero instinct affects your relationship. If you are interested to learn more about this, check out my other post: How to tackle your man’s hero instinct.
6# Work on your appearance
Try to work on your appearance, so that even after your marriage, you still make the same effort to care for yourself. You can be your own kind of beautiful, you can be more attractive to your future husband, your marriage is worth looking your best.
Take care of your basic hygiene. Shower every day, keep your hair clean and smell nice, take care of your teeth, and shave everything that needs shaving. Wear clean clothes and throw away clothes that make you look homeless.
Practice this as your new habit, it will be much easier for you to maintain your appearance after marriage.
7# Be prepare for the changes
Marriage will change your life, so be ready for all the ups and downs of your marriage journey. First, there is no place for selfishness in a marriage. You should start changing your mindset from ‘me’ to ‘we.’ Be more considerate to your partner when you making a plan or make an important decision.
Apart from that, you also need to shift from handling your own finance as a single to managing household finance together. You may need to share your wealth together with your spouse. If you are a working woman, be open about your salary, debt, and investment.
Having an open discussion with your spouse will help you maintain a healthy relationship and prevent any conflicts in the future. The two of you need to be on the same team, so you should learn how to become a good team player.
8# Keep an open mind and be flexible
You and your future husband might have different ways of thinking, perspective, desire, and needs. There is no way you can be on the same page all the time. You shouldn’t expect everything to be perfect in marriage.
Things happen, and sometimes it beyond your expectation. So prepare yourself to be more adaptable. As long as both of you keep an open mind and be flexible to each other, you can minimize the problem in your married life.
The best marriages are made up of individuals who serve each other for the sake of their relationship. They weight their spouse needs over their own and they do that wholeheartedly. I hope this article helps you to prepare for the marriage.
If you have any point that you want to highlight, feel free to leave your comment below. I would love to hear your ideas.